tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8564344309711214810.post2781860355660459745..comments2023-07-06T04:33:14.462-07:00Comments on Flushed: Nature vs Nurture. is loneliness my nature or was I nurtured into being this way?Lina (of Flushed)http://www.blogger.com/profile/18422488691637743606noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8564344309711214810.post-20549147197221187092010-10-20T10:56:06.659-07:002010-10-20T10:56:06.659-07:00Your childhood reminds me so much of mine. Even th...Your childhood reminds me so much of mine. Even though my parents are still married, some things just hit me. Both my parents worked and was never home so I was also basically left to be raised with the TV. <br /><br />Just wanted to say, you are an amazing writer.helennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8564344309711214810.post-73444747376171193482010-09-22T07:19:31.678-07:002010-09-22T07:19:31.678-07:00Sadly, I'm doing this to my son. He is happy ...Sadly, I'm doing this to my son. He is happy and affectionate and wonderful in every way, but I'm so emotionally drained from fighting with E that I honestly feel I have nothing to give to him at the end of the day. I am going to make every effort to be a more attentive mom, he deserves to be shown affection and appreciation more than anything.<br /><br />Thank you for posting this & helping to open my eyes, but I do believe kazehana is right - we have choices to make as adults and while they are difficult (seemingly impossible) changes, they are also necessities to our survival. Her analogy fits, the alternative to freeing your new self, is to wither up and die. (I'm making my own huge change on nothing more than faith that everything will be better)<br /><br />good luck, & all my love while you figure your way in this worldKellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17979384048140214108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8564344309711214810.post-8313039780592329362010-09-20T08:00:02.824-07:002010-09-20T08:00:02.824-07:00It's creepy how much your childhood reminds me...It's creepy how much your childhood reminds me of mine. Mum worked and also liked to party, so I was also raised by the tv and left alone most of the time. Ended up hanging out with the "wrong" people and getting into sex, drugs, rock and roll, and explosives.<br /><br />Life has backed you to the very edge of darkness, and the only way to get out is to just jump. It's terrifying, but it's doable. And almost like a do-over. If a psycho like myself can overcome depression and years of built-up rage to better myself and do what actually makes ME happy, then you can do it too! :)<br /><br />And like Kazehana said, go with the adventurous path. Embrace the fear! You can do anything and be anything you want. The world is your oyster, or something like that.<br /><br />xXxMichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12456803425068822920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8564344309711214810.post-27208788828945950842010-09-19T12:50:42.119-07:002010-09-19T12:50:42.119-07:00Damn, damn, damn. It's so hard, isn't it? ...Damn, damn, damn. It's so hard, isn't it? To let go of learned behaviors, and the responses we've acquired due to circumstances beyond our control...but I think it's possible to do.<br /><br />To stop at the junction of those two roads (oh, shit! less travelled?! SCARY), decide which one feels like home and which one feels like an adventure, then fuck the one that feels like home.<br /><br />Discomfort can be a prime sign of growth, the way creatures with exoskeletons become restricted in their movement until their old skeletons split, freeing their new selves. And those new selves are soft and vulnerable (SCARY!) but thriving, not just surviving.<br /><br />UM, that analogy is making me crave some thai food. Sup, wifey Z? you bring the wine, I'll bring the soft shell crab.kazehanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07956630817317888916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8564344309711214810.post-42557549447276771322010-09-19T01:14:30.176-07:002010-09-19T01:14:30.176-07:00Hm, it is quite a facinating idea, isn't it? I...Hm, it is quite a facinating idea, isn't it? I think both nature and nurture play a role. I do believe, however, that you can be whoever you want to be.<br /><3Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10248245000366701963noreply@blogger.com